Closet Cases
At the risk of sounding like one of these annoying gay men who thinks everyone is gay, I am going to offer my opinion on something:
I think a whole lot more men than we think are gay. Now, this is non-scientific and is strictly anecdotal but I encounter so many men with girlfriends, children, wives who want a little hanky-panky with me. Discretion a must. These guys cruise online and at gyms and it is amazing and sad to me that they all are going through some form of "McGreevey-ism." That is to say that their upbringing did not leave being gay as an option. They do not even identify as gay. In the black and latin community it's the "down-low" but with white men there's not even a vocabulary for it, they're just straight. Yet they have these urges and compartmentalize their lives. A good friend of mine just found out that her married, religious father was arrested at a public park with his pants off performing fellatio on another man. The family is devastated yet the father insists it is the first time it has happened. Sure. These people are so pathologically committed to maintaining their image, that they will layer lie upon lie.
It is very sad that we live in a society where role models be they in sports, music, movies etc. cannot come out of the closet without risking their careers. If they only could, then acceptance would be more prevalent and more people would have options. And this is all about human happiness. People living a lie are not happy, their wives are not happy and their children are not happy and they just perpetuate a myth that drags other men with similar issues down similar paths.
The bottom line is trust your instincts. Just because somebody is married means squat--if you think they are gay, they probably are.
I think a whole lot more men than we think are gay. Now, this is non-scientific and is strictly anecdotal but I encounter so many men with girlfriends, children, wives who want a little hanky-panky with me. Discretion a must. These guys cruise online and at gyms and it is amazing and sad to me that they all are going through some form of "McGreevey-ism." That is to say that their upbringing did not leave being gay as an option. They do not even identify as gay. In the black and latin community it's the "down-low" but with white men there's not even a vocabulary for it, they're just straight. Yet they have these urges and compartmentalize their lives. A good friend of mine just found out that her married, religious father was arrested at a public park with his pants off performing fellatio on another man. The family is devastated yet the father insists it is the first time it has happened. Sure. These people are so pathologically committed to maintaining their image, that they will layer lie upon lie.
It is very sad that we live in a society where role models be they in sports, music, movies etc. cannot come out of the closet without risking their careers. If they only could, then acceptance would be more prevalent and more people would have options. And this is all about human happiness. People living a lie are not happy, their wives are not happy and their children are not happy and they just perpetuate a myth that drags other men with similar issues down similar paths.
The bottom line is trust your instincts. Just because somebody is married means squat--if you think they are gay, they probably are.
posted by Bart at 12:21 AM
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